I read Metroline often and particularly enjoy the letters to Uncle Blabby. I find that your answers to writers’ questions to be right on the mark, respectful and good humored.
I was disappointed, in your reply to a recent letter from George, the 60 year old closeted man who had never been inside a gay bar. You suggested that he go to a bar, albeit at happy hour. I would guess that an older man in either of the two bars you suggested would not be particularly successful meeting like-minded people.
Prime Timers is an organization of mature gay and bisexual men and their friends who join together for social, educational, and cultural activities. Activities involve arts, sports, travel, entertainment, politics, and gay issues. Connecticut Prime Timers meet regularly at the Marco Polo Restaurant in East Hartford for Sunday brunch and dinner. A schedule is available on the organization’s website: www.ctprimetimers.org/id13.html
A Prime Timer myself,
KC in New Haven
Indeed, you are correct. I totally agree with the assessment that you made of that piece. Although I am usually more in touch with other activities in the area to direct folks to, I neglected to point out that Prime Timers would be a perfect venue for him. Thanks for writing in and giving us the info. Hopefully George is still reading after that advice and will get the info. Also nice to know that Blabby is human, and sometimes makes mistakes. Although if you asked any of my friends, they would tell you that I most often don’t admit them!! (and that’s because in my mind, they’re usually not mistakes!!!!)
In my Prime
I have a very good friend that as of late, I never see. We used to spend a great deal of time together, but recently he met a guy. They now spend almost every waking hour together. The guy lives a distance away, so I don’t even get a chance to see him when they are together. How do I get my best friend back?
Please don’t use my name.
Dear No Name:
It is not uncommon for you to feel this way. It sounds like the two of you spent a great deal of time together and were “buds.” That can take some adjustment, not unlike any other type of separation. It may be difficult for you because you now have to do things without your friend, but I’m sure deep inside you must be happy for him. If he has found a person to share his life with, accept it. I would sit down with him and explain your feelings. Tell him that you miss his companionship. Tell him that you totally understand why he is spending time with his new beau, but that you hope he will understand that there should be some time allocated for you as well. If he is a true friend, he will understand and make appropriate changes in his behavior.
Lonely no more,
Dear Uncle Blabby:
As you’ve said, not all of us are pigs. In fact, some of us also live in Manchester and would give anything to meet and grow to know the right type of guy.
Another Seeker in Manchester
Meeting the “right guy” is not always easy. There are several nice guys out there. The trick is to find out where they are and get to meet them. Uncle Blabby is still looking as well. So good luck, and hopefully we’ll both find the “right one!”
Looking for the Trick,
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