Dear Uncle Blabby:

Where have all the nice people in the world moved? I live in East Hartford, work in Bloomfield, and hang around in Hartford. I go out to whats left of the clubs, eat out in restaurants, shop in stores etc, and I’ve noticed that people are becoming more and more rude and insulting. Can I have any influence on this disturbing trend, or do I just need to accept this type of behavior?

EJ in East Hartford

Dear EJ:

Uncle Blabby has noticed the same type of behavior in people throughout the region. However, Uncle Blabby has also noticed that there are some very nice people out there as well. Try to focus on the nice folks and let the rude ones be rude to each other. You may not be able to change the world, but you can change the way you perceive it!!

Optimistically Yours,
Uncle Blabby

Dear Uncle Blabby:

When two people fall in love, but are constantly fighting, what does that really mean?

Coming to Blows in Rocky Hill

Dear Blows:

What it means is that while you may be in love with each other, you are still positioning yourselves for dominance in the relationship. The fighting usually means that neither one is willing to concede to the other. Sit down with your partner and have a discussion about control issues. I think you will find that this is the basis of your arguments. Uncle Blabby is a control freak and has extensive experience with this issue. I can discuss this further with you if need be. You can contact me through Metroline.

In Control,
Uncle Blabby

Dear Uncle Blabby:

I always look forward to the holidays because I really enjoy seeing some old friends that I just don’t get a chance to see throughout the year. The one problem is that in order to see these friends, I need to come into contact with some people who I really don’t care about. I know that I should bury the hatchet and try to get along with those people, but I can’t. Is there anything that you can offer as a way to get past this?

Fred from Farmington

Dear Fred:

Uncle Blabby enjoys the holidays for the same reason. I go out of my way to spend some time with those people I care about but just don’t get the opportunity to visit with extensively throughout the year. I stay focused on the relationships that I care about and tolerate those that I don’t. Remember, it is the time to be merry and have a gay ole time!!

Having a Gay ole Time,
Uncle Blabby

Dear Uncle Blabby:

I enjoy your column. I have two nephews, ages 24 and 26. Both are very attractive and have girlfriends. I am open and out to them both and their friends. They often visit me with friends and we sit out on my porch drinking beer etc, with no hang-ups. I’ve often wondered if either of them or their friends were curious, but never acted upon my curiosity. Is there a way that I can broach the subject without crossing any lines?

BG, Cromwell

Dear BG:

In my opinion you’ve already crossed the line by just thinking about “broaching the subject” with your nephews. Uncle Blabby hopes that what you were talking about is “broaching the subject” with their friends. If that’s the case, allow them to get drunk, insist that they don’t drive, and make them spend the night at your house. It might be hard to bring it up, but if it gets up it will be worth it.

Always thinking,
Uncle Blabby

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