Blabby: Boyfriend May Use Threesomes as Alternative to Cheating
Dear Uncle Blabby,
My partner of 16 months and I recently started having threesomes. It was agreed at he time we discussed the subject to only introduce guys into our sex life if we were together, but later I found out he cheated on me months before. Is having three-ways just a way for him to validate his infidelity? Do you think he will continue to go behind my back?
A.P.,
Springfield, Mass.
Dear AP,
Three ways have been a source of concern for couples forever. It almost always is at the request of one partner and a concession from the other. Rarely is it ever that both partners want to engage a third person in their sex life. The most common reason, although not usually admitted, is that the person wanting the threesome is bored sexually with his partner, or not getting the fulfillment he is looking for. If your partner gets what he needs from the threesomes, he may not go behind your back. If not, he most certainly will.
One at a time for me,
Uncle Blabby
Dear Uncle Blabby,
I don’t want to sound naive, but what is rimming?
Via email
Dear Clueless,
You may not want to sound naïve, but surely you are!! Rimming is the art of licking a persons asshole. It gives extreme pleasure to those that receive it, and given the right other person, can give extreme pleasure to the” licker” as well (as if that really matters).
Love being Licked
Uncle Blabby
Confidential to BMcG, Queens, NY,
You are a good boy. Keep doing what you do best!!
Uncle Blabby
Dear Uncle Blabby,
I love your column and never ever thought I would write a letter to you but I do need some help. I have been involved with a man for over two years and we share a great companionship together. We have the same tastes in many things from food to movies, but we do not share romance or passion. He does not know how to kiss and his idea of sex is to bump into each other at night and get it over with ASAP. I’ve gotten books and videos but he tells me this is the way he is and he isn’t interested in changing. He is interested only in close companionship. My problem is that I miss making out and having hot, physical man-on-man sex. I’m thinking of perhaps having a fling on the side to fulfill these desires. I don’t want to lose this guy but I need fulfillment. Comment please.
No name please, Easthampton, Mass.
Dear Unfulfilled in Easthampton,
There are plenty of relationships where sex is not the mainstay of their existence. Companionship is what keeps them going. That said, you do have physical needs that are not being taken care of. Some guys are just not as passionate as others. Yours seems to be one of them. If you can’t get him to change, then it might be appropriate for you to “get some on the side”. My suggestion is that you are open about your plans with him before you embark on that solution. You may find that the possibility of having you ‘get off’ somewhere else makes him ‘get it on’ better with you.
Getting it,
Uncle Blabby
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I had to comment because you were wrong about this "Rarely is it ever that both partners want to engage a third person in their sex life. The most common reason, although not usually admitted, is that the person wanting the threesome is bored sexually with his partner, or not getting the fulfillment he is looking for."
That might be true for failed 3ways, but a large number of couples enjoy sharing, watching, and being watched by and with someone they love and find hot. In some cases the third is sort of like a human dildo. In other cases, the 3 people actually like the bonding between 3 people like a group.
People that are into 3ways will understand that, and people who aren't won't. It is sort of like str8 people not understanding why people like gay sex. Not everyone is insecure about their relationships.
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