Dear Uncle Blabby,

I’ve been seeing a cute guy for nearly 6 months. He wouldn’t disclose his home address to me to protect his parents, although he doesn’t live with them. They are very old school, not too tolerable of his gay life-style. He had some serious issues with his first relationship that ended tragically, and he has since recovered his reputation and resolved other related issues.

We were getting along great, but then he goes on a cruise, originally planned before we met. He met some supposedly “hot guy,” who lives in Chicago (a lawyer). He gave the guy his number, and they’ve been texting each other. He claims the guy lives too far away and he was ending any contact with him.

You guessed it, they maintained contact, now he hits me with the “let’s just be friends” cliche. He claims he was never ready for any commitment to anyone, due to the horrible ending to his last relationship. He had severe legal issues and financial losses. It also took a toll on his family.

As an adult, I fully understand. So I backed off. Eventually, I began to become impatient, and wanted to know if he likes me or really really LIKES me. “Let me know or let’s just call it quits!” He called my bluff, and stuck to “just friends.” Yeah, for HIS convenience! I need something more intimate. Infatuation sucks!

He confessed that he and “hot guy” made plans for a four day weekend in N.Y. So, they partied and (allegedly) booked another cruise together. I felt so jealous, I lost it and verbally tore him a new one. He turned the issue around on me, because I made reference to a sorrowful detail in his past that he told me in confidence. Such drama! My bad!

We’ve since made up, I apologized, and decided to be “just friends!” Suddenly, my social life picks up...men are unusually attracted to me. Guess who is jealous now? Meanwhile, I found his address (for my own protection), and because I have a right to know. I wouldn’t go near it out of respect for his privacy. But suddenly he’s calling me a lot???!!! What’s up with that?

I really dig this guy, but it feels like I’m just hanging on... dumb right? I somehow sense that the “hot guy” is only a figment of “our” imaginations. I don’t want to know if he’s real. Friends with benefits just isn’t enough, Blabby! I want a boyfriend. I’m bright, attractive, fun loving, and affectionate. I’m an Aquarius, we don’t cling. but we’re loyal.

Betrayed, Bothered, and Bewildered in Hartford  

Dear BBB,

Both people have to be committed to each other in order for a relationship to work. Even “open relationships” require that the two involved be committed to each other for any lasting benefit. It sounds to me like your “cute guy” isn’t ready or is unable to commit to being in a relationship, with you or any one else for that matter. Unless you are willing to be with him in a “friends with benefits” type relationship for now, I suggest that you move on to one of the men who have been unusually attracted to you. Hopefully those guys are not just a “figment of your imagination!!”

Knows what I want, and gets it,
Uncle Blabby

Hey Uncle Blabby,

I know you’re not a doctor, but here goes. ... My partner and I have been together for 10 great years. When we have sex, I can play with his nipples and he instantly gets hard. On the other hand, he can play with mine and I feel nothing.

As far as going south, I suck on his balls and he tends to feel a little discomfort so I stop because I know its not a big turn-on. As far as me, I love to have my big low hangers sucked, stretched and slapped moderately hard and it makes me super horny, that feeling is wonderful.

Why are some nipples and or balls less or more sensitive than others? I kinda see the connection with the balls but how are nipples connected to your cock for arousal?

Low hangers loving it!!!!!!!!!!

Dear Low Hangers,

I can’t help but wonder why you need to know this? Does it matter that for some guys there is no sensation when their nips are tweaked? All that matters is that you each get the pleasure that you are looking for when you have sex.

In his case, try licking his balls instead of sucking. Lick under the sack and along the crotch area as well, and continue to play with his nipples, as it seems to excite him. Ask him to leave yours alone and pay much more attention to those low hangers.

If he’s not doing what makes you feel good, coach him. There is nothing wrong with telling your partner what you like and then helping them do it that way.

Also a member of the low hangers club,
Uncle Blabby

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