Dear Uncle Blabby,

My boyfriend just broke up with me at Disneyworld.  Whenever I look at him and his new guy, I feel sick inside, upset and sad and feel like I want to cry. Yesterday when I was with friends I wanted to talk about it but held it in because I was afraid I would break down and cry. How do I handle seeing him with this new guy and handle my first heartbreak?

Joey, West Hartford, Conn.

Dear Joey,

Heartbreak is never easy, and your first one is usually the most difficult. I say first one, because for most of us, it will happen more than once. It sounds like you liked your BF very much. This can be hard, but when you see him, try to associate one of the good times you two had together. You get to make the conscious choice as to how your mind will react to his sight. It’s simple, but not easy. Reprogram your mind to eliminate the hurt, and replace it with joy. Stay focused on finding a new BF, one that would never use the magic kingdom to end a relationship.

Living in my own magic kingdom,
Uncle Blabby

Dear U.B.,

I heard recently that I have slept with three guys that I barely know.  It isn’t my thing to sleep around and I wouldn’t deny sleeping with a guy if I happened to have a one-night stand.  How should I react to these rumors?  Should I defend myself, or just let them say whatever?

Mark, New Haven, Conn.

Hi Mark,

When you hear things said about you or anyone, that you know are false, a simple statement to state the facts is always appropriate. No need to rant on and on about it, as usually those that do are usually attempting to cover the truth, not expose it. That said, how were the guys, any good?

No rumors here,
Uncle Blabby

Dear Uncle Blabby,

My boyfriend and I are both 26 and have lived together for the last two years. He’s driving me crazy!  All of his friends are crack heads who party non-stop.  He thinks my friends are bores because we aren’t fucked up Monday through Friday.  I need some rest during the week and want to hang out with the relatively sane during the weekends. But that’s hard to do when my living room looks like Club Babylon on Queer As Folk.  When I tell my boyfriend I don’t want to live like this, he relents and we stay in, make dinner and watch the gay channel on TV for a couple of weeks. Then he’s back on the club circuit again, and I rarely see him.   This has been going on since we’ve been living together. I love him and want it to work, but am miserable.  What should I do?

T.P.
Providence, R.I.

Dear TP

You already know the answer, but I will validate it for you. There are only two choices now that you’ve already asked him to curtail his drug use. You can either put up with it and try to be his ‘savior’ or you can dump his sorry ass and run as fast as you can to get away from the slime ball. Guess which one I would choose?

No drugs here,
Uncle Blabby

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