There is a saying that has been beaten to death for decades. "Actions speak louder than words." My Dad used to say that all the time.
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There is a saying that has been beaten to death for decades. "Actions speak louder than words." My Dad used to say that all the time. There is a group that sings a song called "More than Words" and it pretty much personifies the concept. "Dad can I borrow the car? I promise to fill the tank." Yeah right! Fat chance I'm gonna waste my hard-earned cash on Dad's car. He'll fill it himself and I'm not going to be there when he does so I will not hear it. At least until later anyway right? Or how about when your boyfriend says he is going to do something and falls through. "I swear I will pick up your shirt from the cleaners for the party tonight." Then it turns out he ran out of money because he stopped at Starbucks on the way and you end up wearing a shirt out of the hamper and doing everything you can to pull off the rumpled look thing. Kind of like the un-kempt hair look thing actually came from running out of hair product and having to steal grandpa's hair gel. (It really says "Hair Grease" on the tube. And it does work to stop the door hinge from squeaking!) Or how about the guy who you get along with for the longest time and you think you are on the same page and understand things in the same light. Then one day you say something that he doesn't really agree with and all of a sudden you are the biggest asshole on the planet.
The actions do speak louder than words. Much, much louder. Dad didn't really let me use the car much because if he couldn't trust me to fill it with gas. But more so he felt he couldn't trust me in general with his insurance. When the friend gets pissed over a difference of opinion, all his prior words fly out the window and with it the trust. Especially since if there were any items that needed to be understood, if the friendship were legitimate in the first place he would have asked you. Instead your friend exposed himself as shallow at the expense of that very friendship. If you want trust and honesty from your friends and family, you need to be truthful and honest yourself. If you want to be believed when you say you will do something, then do it. If you want a friend and have a question, be a friend and ask the question with an open mind. When you assume, you are almost always wrong and that's not worth destroying a relationship of any kind.